My great-grandfather was a patriotic soldier who served in the military and fought in WWII. My family has a long history of bravery and perseverance, and he is a living example of that. He and innumerable others gave their lives so that we can live the way we do today.

Having this heritage has filled me with immense pride in my ancestors’ men, who have not only persevered through unfathomable hardships but also worked tirelessly to build our nation. The unfaltering power that characterizes manhood is exemplified by their tales of responsibility, sacrifice, and persistence.

The narrative in literature and society conversations frequently centers on women: their challenges, their successes, and their path to empowerment. On the other hand, the masculine experience offers a crucial but sometimes ignored viewpoint.

Men Don’t Cry; They Conquer. This has been my profound realization as a woman who has spent her entire life in the company of males, whether at work, in social settings, or just going about my daily life. This is the main idea behind my latest book, Men Don’t Cry, They Conquer.

Someone, very recently, asked me, “You’re the first woman I know who wrote a book about men.”

……. This makes me feel uncomfortable. What motivated you?”

Although it is not unexpected, this question makes me think about the obvious differences in our understanding and discussion of masculinity. With all the accolades for men’s resiliency, stoicism, and unfaltering strength, it is very easy to forget about the hardships they endure. But I am here to tell you that, beyond all the superficial issues, men really do face serious and, often, more complicated problems than we see.

Built to Last: The Stoic Core of Manliness

Throughout my childhood, I was constantly in the company of men. The men I worked with, knew, and was acquainted with: all worked very hard to complete their tasks and perform their responsibilities. Not their brute power, but the silent, invisible strength they exhibited in their daily lives was what really stood out. Characteristic of males is a quiet strength, mastery of one’s emotions, and dedication to duty.

The idea of Stoicism, which I discuss in my book, is therefore brought to its core. The Stoic philosophy, which teaches men to endure suffering without showing their emotions, is one that I think men should adopt. For Stoics, the capacity to confront adversity without succumbing to it is the mark of a strong person, not emotional fragility or outbursts. Men are innately strong and resilient. They were made to be resilient, to provide, and to shield others from harm. Knowing better than to let their emotions dictate their actions is an essential part of their protective job.

Since this attitude is consistent with the way I have observed men act all my life, it speaks of the core values of perseverance, emotional management, and self-discipline. They are able to control their emotions and persevere through tough times because they understand that being stable is a quality that is valued in the world.

The message of Men Don’t Cry, They Conquer is that being strong is not anything for which a man should ever feel ashamed.

It was never intended for men to be weak; they were created to conquer. That, I believe, is the spirit I intend to convey through my book.